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Original Post: 1/20/11
The other day day I was putting my 3 year old daughter, Eisley, down for a nap. She had been very obedient that day and had even earned herself an Oreo cookie date with her daddy after her nap (As if that's hard to do when Mommy's not home.)
Before nap we were talking about how obedient she had been and I almost naturally said, "You know Jesus is very proud of you when you obey." It seemed such a natural, appropriate, right response to her obedience and you may be thinking, "what's the big deal?... Sounds right to me too."
So why do i not ever want to say these kind of words to my children?
Because I don't wont my kids living with any kind of idea that Jesus loves them more or is more proud of them when the are good, because that means he loves them less or is not proud of them when they mess up.
You may disagree, but I, for one, still battle this kind of thinking in my own life. I can't help but think that sometimes God is angry with me when I screw up, and that feeling sucks and can consume you. (Note: I should say this idea was taught to me in the christian school and church I attended, and not by my parents... My parents are one reason i still love Jesus.)
It's already hard enough "accepting that we are accepted" by God.
I want to teach my children that God loves them. He loves them when they obey and he loves them when they are at their worst.
I did ask Eisley if she knew of anyone else who was also very obedient... She answered, "Jesus". See, I want to teach my children to be like Jesus, not fear him... eisley and I have read a lot about Jesus and how loving and compassionate he is. So it doesn't make since to me to also treat Jesus as a threat or a weapon or use him as some sort of fear tactic with my children. They will probably experience that kind of garbage enough as it is growing up.